Time Leaving

time slips away,
like melting snow,
and falling rain,
like a flower in bloom,
a river come summer,
a ship sailed by,
a song in the air,
a love gone,
all too soon.

Dutch Babies

If you have not had a Dutch baby, you must try this recipe! It is really a treat for a lazy weekend morning! A Dutch baby is a combination of a pancake and a popover. It is light and thin and, unlike other types of pancakes, is baked in the oven. I like them best with good quality maple syrup and butter but you can choose any type of syrup or fruit, whatever your pleasure.

2 Tbl. butter
2 eggs
1/2 cup whole milk
1/2 cup flour
maple syrup
powdered sugar

Preheat the oven to 425 degrees. Use a 10 inch non-stick frying pan. You need an old fashioned electrical blender. This is one of those recipes where mise en place is critical. Have all your ingredients measured and ready to go before you start. First put the butter in the frying pan and place in the oven to start melting. Put the two eggs in the blender and blend for one minute. Keep blending while you slowly add the milk and then the flour and blend an additional 30 seconds. Very quickly open the oven and pour the batter into the melted butter in the pan. Cook for 15 minutes. Remove and let rest for a minute or two. Sprinkle powdered sugar over the top. Add warm maple syrup. Serve immediately and enjoy!

In Harm’s Way He Stood Tall

Tom MacSpeiden, Ph.D. has been a psychologist and SDPA member for a long time. He is a past president of our association in addition to having contributed in numerous ways to the development of the San Diego psychological community.  For many years Tom was the chief psychologist at the local community mental health center, and he mentored and guided many psychologists who are now prominent in their own right.

Tom is known for his forensic work amongst other things. A few years ago he testified for the defense of Dale Akiki, a developmentally disabled adult, who was accused of abusing children at a church day care center. The LA Times reported,

“Akiki’s trial put all those contradictions in high relief. It pitted Akiki, 36, against nine children who accused him of bludgeoning live animals and drinking their blood as part of his satanic repertoire. One boy even accused Akiki of murdering a baby.”

“Witnesses said Akiki conspired with his wife and another sitter to subject the children to rituals of mayhem, involving urine, feces, water torture and animal mutilation–including the slaughter of an elephant, a giraffe, and a rabbit.”

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Letting Go

The title of this article isn’t scientific, but it captures a process that involves us all. So, what am I talking about? From the earliest time of life, the task of people is to embrace, adapt, and eventually move on. Children go to school and learn but move to the next grade. Then, they graduate. They go to a new school, and then they go to college. Each change requires a new adaptation and letting go of the past. This is not as easy as it sounds.

Certain phases of life and experiences are decisive, and there’s a temptation to hold on to them. Some holding on is adaptive. People join booster clubs and alumni organizations and attend games supporting their colleges. Other people could handle the situation better. They live in their college town, hang out with students, and don’t advance into careers and other life stages. Why is this so?

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Karen Pirie

A while ago, I saw a terrific crime series on Britt Box called Karen Pirie. The heroine, Pirie, is a Scottish detective trying to solve a complex crime despite the obstructive behavior of her superiors. The lead actress, Lauren Lyle, portrays a refreshingly normal and unfashionable character and is excellent. I am hoping for another season.


Tamarindo is a relatively new Mexican restaurant on the first floor of Del Mar Plaza in the village of Del Mar. The outdoor patio is pleasant, though the indoor seating could be lighter and more inviting. I enjoy the chips, salsa, and guacamole dip very much. My wife and I usually split the chicken enchilada dish, which is delicious and ample. I have not tried a margarita at the eatery, but my friend likes them. The prices are reasonable, and I suggest a reservation. Parking is available in the garage beneath the plaza.

November 2023

Fall Colors

It was quiet on the farm that night. Mary was gone now, as was his Lab, Rocket. With the Green mountains in the distance, Will looked from his back porch over acres of pasture. Will Stockwell had to admit that though he loved his place, he was lonely and couldn’t tend to things as he once had. He sold off the last of his livestock, and though his workload had lessened, there were still fences to fix, painting to do, and hay to mow. 

His daughter had talked with him several times about moving to an assisted living home in Rutland, but Will Stockwell was a proud, independent man, and he didn’t want anyone taking care of him. But on second thought, he wasn’t doing his best self-maintenance. When was the last time he had cooked himself a meal? How clean was the house? 

Maybe it was time, he thought. If anyone knew changing times, it should be he, who had lived on a farm for the last forty years. Didn’t the seasons change? People were born, grew up, and died. It seemed simple when he thought about it that way, but moving into a place with many city people seemed a bit much at this time.

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The Ritz-Carlton Wedge

Here is a recipe for an old-fashioned salad that has been returning in recent years. The dressing is easy to make and delicious. Try it!

1 ½ cups of mayonnaise
1/3 cup of buttermilk
¼ cup of sour cream
2 tablespoons of fresh lemon juice
½ teaspoon Worcestershire sauce 
¼ teaspoon Tabasco sauce
5 ounces of Roquefort cheese
romaine lettuce

In a mixing bowl, whisk together all ingredients except the Roquefort until smooth, and then stir in the Roquefort and salt and pepper to taste. Refrigerate. Serve the dressing over Romaine lettuce with some small pieces of fresh tomato and red onion.


Time goes quickly,
like a speeding train,
like a falcon in the wind, 
like a river in spring.
the rhythm of things
goes on like a bouncing ball,
a spinning top,
passing clouds.
the rains come and go,
ice in winter,
water in spring,
leaves in the summer.